Introducing New Things In The Bedroom...

Some women aren’t shy coming into the bedroom wearing a PVC cat-suit, whip in one hand, sex toy dangling from the other, and telling their other half in rude words what they want to do to them. However, what if you aren’t this type of women, what if you’re shy, a little embarrassed to be so upfront and have a fear of being rejected or laughed at?

Introducing new things to the bedroom doesn’t have to be daunting. Sex is meant to be fun, and you should be comfortable with one another.

There are many ways in which you can bring up the topic without being too forward, and perhaps embarrassing you both.

Browse a website, or pick up a lingerie magazine, or one containing sexy items. It’s best to be reading this when in a comfortable place with your partner, such as in bed. You don’t want to bring the subject up over lattes in public!

Casually flip through the pages, and point out lingerie that you like, and ask him for his advice. Then move onto the costumes, and finally, sex toys. Ask him whether he would ever be interested in using any.

Or perhaps when you're out shopping together, you can ask him if he'll pop in Ann Summers, or whichever sex shop with you to look at underwear. You can then casually browse the toys and other goodies, asking his opinion on things.

Another way is to surprise him. On Valentines Day, as a small gift on the side, or Christmas, as a stocking filler, wrap up a box of bedroom goodies for him. If he’s shy don’t go straight for the hardcore items. Perhaps choose some fluffy handcuffs, a blindfold, lubricant, massage oils, a ‘couples porn’ DVD, perhaps a small toy, which is unlikely to intimidate him. The bullet is a good example, and definitely not intimidating.

If he reacted well to the surprise, and you used the products, say on one of your date nights, or on special occasions, then you’re onto a good thing.

You can then surprise him with more goodies, buying different things each time.